Right now, I’m sure you’re looking for answers. You’re wondering how this parenting malarkey can be so hard. Why can’t your kids just listen?
You don’t want to be losing your cool, wracked with guilt or fed up with your kids not listening.
You don’t want the dreaded bedtime battles, it’s not too much to ask for your evenings to yourself!
You don’t want dinner time dramas. – Why can’t they just sit at the table and eat what they’re given for once?!
And not to mention the school-run chaos, nagging and shouting just to get out the house in the morning.
Well, Language of Listening® is based on positive psychology, transformational coaching and play therapy. It’s a really simple yet powerful coaching tool that works with how humans work. No more battles, stress and pulling your hair out.
Imagine ditching the punishments, threats, bribes and negotiations (it’s exhausting isn’t it?! And truthful we all know how ineffective they are.) AND get better behaviour? – Say what?
Is that even possible? I thought so too, until I saw the results for myself.
And that’s why I did two years of in depth training to become a Language of Listening® coach and why I want to shout from the roof-tops… why did no-one tell me this before?! Why don’t more parents know about this parenting magic?
Seriously, I struggled unnecessarily for years, my daughter was one of those 0-60 kinda kids. I spent most days ready to explode, fighting with my husband over the best way to discipline her and I was running out of patience. Deep down I knew there had to be another way. One that wasn’t filled with heartache and stress.
Language of Listening® works with how your child thinks – all humans in fact, not just the more challenging children. (Works with partners too!!)
It’s easy use, easy to remember, (we need that right? Who has time for complicated stuff when you’re running round after your children, working and all the hundred and one other things on your to do list?)
AND best of all, it gets you the behaviour you WANT from your children. They learn to control their own behaviour, so you don’t have to! They learn to find solutions within your boundaries and you work together as a team.
I want to show you how 3 simple steps can change EVERYTHING for you.
The first step is something we call ‘Say What You See®” if we skip it and go straight to trying to set boundaries and control our child’s behaviour or even use praise, it falls flat because we are not starting where our child is. SWYS gets you smack bang in the middle with your child in the physical world of here now. and that’s why this one step seems so simple, you might think why bother? What good would that do? I promise. This step changes everything!
The next two steps are all about GUIDANCE.
So, if we see something we DON’T LIKE We offer an alternative within our boundary. What we call a CAN DO. Literally, what your child CAN Do that’s still within your boundary.
And if we see something, we DO LIKE we state a STRENGTH. Think of it as praise in a new way. One that actually works to help our child to see their inner greatness. The child knows who they are and can see that in themselves. And it’s how our child becomes able to control their own behaviour and actions.
It’s all here! Over 300 SAY WHAT YOU SEE® phrases for 23 everyday situations. You’ll never again be left guessing “What should I say?” Organised by situation for ease of use.
WHAT STRENGTH DOES THAT SHOW?
Imagine knowing just what to say to bring out your child’s inner greatness and help them control their own behaviour – so you don’t have to!
Over 100 STRENGTHs at your fingertips and 32 everyday moments where you can find them. You’ll see how to take some of the statements in our SAY WHAT YOU SEE® Phrases booklet a step further by adding STRENGTHs. Never be left wondering what to say to bring out your child’s inner greatness!
Find 100+ STRENGTHs to quickly connect your child.
WHAT’S A GOOD CAN DO FOR THAT?
Keep your emotional connection with your child and STILL be the one in charge!
Over 100 CAN DOs for 34 real-life situations from our SAY WHAT YOU SEE® Phrases booklet. Learn to recognize NEEDs, hold your boundaries, AND help your child find healthy CAN DOs to meet their needs in ways you LIKE.
Quickly find ideas for CAN DOs that meet the NEED behind behaviors you probably don’t like.
Danielle shares what a difference the 3 downloadable booklets made to her family life, more calm, less explosive episodes and more connection with her son.