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Does your child only listen unless you’ve been driven to shouting like a banshee?
Are you fed up talking till you’re blue in the face?
Do you ever feel like hiding under your duvet with a family size bar of chocolate to escape bedtime tantrums?
Are you ready to go from surviving to thriving?
Isn’t it time you swapped chaos for calm?
Parenting overwhelm is real. There’s lots of confusing and conflicting advice out there. Now, before you start scrolling and skim reading yet another blog post.
STOP!!
I can help you to achieve the family life you have always dreamt of.
I have helped hundreds of parents just like you. I can show you how to positively transform the dynamics of your family life. I can teach you powerful skills that will turn you into a parenting ninja.
Does your child not listen unless you’ve been driven to shouting like a banshee?
Are you fed up talking till you’re blue in the face?
Do you ever feel like hiding under your duvet with a party size bar of chocolate to escape the bedtime tantrums?
Are you ready to go from surviving to thriving? Isn’t it time you swapped chaos for calm?
Parenting overwhelm is real. There’s lots of confusing and conflicting advice out there. Now, before you start scrolling and skim reading yet another blog post.
STOP!!
I can help you to achieve the family life you have always dreamt of.
I have helped hundreds of parents just like you. I can show you how to positively transform the dynamics of your family life. I can teach you powerful skills that will turn you into a parenting ninja.
Language of Listening® is without doubt the most effective, yet simple 3-step coaching model to raising children successfully.
This approach will transform not only the relationship you have with your child but will have a positive effect on all relationships in your life, including how you feel about yourself.
I was waiting in line for the checkout at the supermarket and my strong-willed toddler was having a fit over not getting chocolate buttons… Full-on meltdown. She threw herself to the floor and cried like she’d been attacked by a swarm for bees. I could feel all eyes on me. Waiting to see what I would do next. How was I going to get to the car without losing my cool and without causing a scene?
As I was getting out of my car for Trick or treating, I was wearing a mask and a little girl, about 4 or 5 years old screamed out in pure terror. ‘What’s up?” I asked the mum “Why the screaming?” “Oh! She hasn’t been cleaning her room, so I’ve been threatening her with a visit from Momo.” And I have to wonder if she is cleaning her room because she’s so frightened or if it’s still a daily battle? And once Halloween has passed, is this mum now using Santa as the threat?
One tip to change everything and bring joy back to shopping. “We are not buying anything else.” Sophie reminded her children. “We are only popping into one shop and we’re only getting a present for Daddy.” And just like clockwork, both kids were wanting. “Look at this Mummeeeee. I neeed thissss!!!” Sophie was frustrated. How many times had she told her children they couldn’t always have what they wanted? “How many times do I have to tell you?! We’re not getting anything else; you’re sounding spoilt and ungrateful.” But it always fell on deaf ears. Nothing changed.
You are not responsible for other people’s emotions and they are not responsible for yours. One of the greatest illusions is that you cause other people’s emotions and they cause yours. Think about it. Isn’t this what most of us have been led to believe? It’s modelled through daily interactions and how people typically relate to others. How often have you heard people say: “You’re making mummy sad?” “You’re making me really mad right now!” Because we’ve been told that others are the cause of our reactions and emotions. The craziness of this outlook is that truly we are the ONLY people responsible for our own emotions and reactions. AND we are not responsible for the emotions of others, including our children! It doesn’t mean we aren’t responsible parents, that we should make our child’s life difficult or that we don’t care for their emotional well-being. It means we are not responsible for their emotions and reactions.
Last week I was running a few errands with my daughter and we popped into the local garden centre, and amid the ghosts and skeletons and Halloween candy was a full-on winter wonderland… fake snow, baubles and tinsel. Now, I love Christmas, I look forward to spending the holidays with my siblings and their families. The bigger the better. (I’m one of 5) But if you ask me, having decorations out and Christmas music on in November is just plain wrong.
“Just be good!” my husband told our 5-year-old girl as she was messing around in the bathroom, singing, jumping, being silly…. Anything to NOT get in the bath. And not an uncommon thing for a parent to say. Easily said and quickly forgotten.
