When Defiance Shows Up – What To Say & Do

£19.00

Practical, in-the-moment words to use when your child resists, pushes back, or gets stuck in defiance.

For parents who understand their child, but still struggle to know what to say in the moment.

Practical words for the exact moments parenting feels hardest.

When your child is defiant and you don’t know what to say — this gives you the words.

No lectures.
No discipline charts.
Just in-the-moment scripts that help defiance soften into cooperation.

If you understand your child’s behaviour but still freeze, snap, or shout in the moment,
When Defiance Hits – What To Say & Do – shows you exactly what to say — and why it works.

You know your child isn’t being “naughty for no reason.”
You understand that defiance is communication.

But when your child refuses, meltdowns, or digs their heels in…

your mind goes blank
you lose your cool
or you hear yourself saying the very thing you promised you wouldn’t

And afterwards comes the guilt.

Insight is powerful — but in the heat of the moment, you need words.

That’s what this toolkit is for.

What this is

It is a practical, easy-to-use ebook filled with ready-to-use scripts for the moments defiance hits.

It’s based on Language of Listening® principles and designed to be used:

in real time
under pressure
with a dysregulated child and a dysregulated parent

You don’t need to remember theory.
You just need a place to turn when things are escalating.

This is for you if…

✔️ You’re parenting a child who resists, argues, ignores, or melts down
✔️ You want to stay calm without being permissive
✔️ You understand behaviour is communication — but need help responding
✔️ You want cooperation that comes from connection, not control
✔️ You’re tired of shouting, threatening, or feeling like you’ve failed

🚫 This is not about “getting tougher”
🚫 This is not about rewards, punishments, or consequences
🚫 This is not about fixing your child

It’s about changing the moment — which changes the pattern.

What you’ll get inside

Inside When Defiance Hits – What To Say & Do , you’ll find:

✨ In-the-moment scripts for common defiance scenarios
✨ What to say when your child:

refuses a request
talks back
ignores you
escalates when you set a boundary

✨ Why each script works (so you’re not just memorising words)
✨ How to stay regulated while holding your boundary
✨ Simple language shifts that reduce power struggles fast

This isn’t something you read once and put away.

It’s something you reach for when you need it most.

Why this works

Defiance isn’t disrespect.
It’s a child communicating a need, a limit, or an overwhelm.

When you respond in a way that helps your child feel:

seen
understood
a way forward

cooperation becomes possible.

These scripts are designed to do exactly that.

“Will this work for my child?”

Every child is different — but the principles behind these scripts are universal.

They don’t rely on compliance, fear, or rewards.
They work by addressing what’s underneath the behaviour — which is why parents often notice a shift immediately.

“I already know this stuff.”

Knowing why behaviour happens is powerful.
Knowing what to say when it happens is what changes daily life.

This toolkit bridges that gap.

“It’s only £19 — can it really help?”

This isn’t a full behaviour programme.
It’s a practical support tool — designed to save you from the moments that feel hardest.

Many parents tell me they wish they’d had this years earlier.

About the author

Hi I’m Camilla —

an authorised Language of Listening® Master Coach, parent, and someone who used to shout far more than I wanted to.

I don’t teach theory
I teach what actually works

This toolkit was created because parents kept telling me:

“I understand… but I still don’t know what to say.”

Now you will.