We get confused with all the dated advice out there, such as ”You just need to be firmer”, “Show them who‘s boss”, “Bring back the naughty step.” The problem is that none of these techniques works in the long term to create happy family members.
Trust me! There is another way, a way that you can stay in charge, call the shots and get willing cooperation.
Rather than the old school paradigm of demanding compliance and obedience, through science we now know what it takes to raise a child who thrives, emotionally and physically.
Parenting is so much more than discipline. Old school parenting puts so much emphasis on a child’s behaviour. We spend so much time trying to control our children that we blindly miss the point of what we are setting out to achieve.
Our true power and influence is not our ability to control their behaviour, to shout the loudest or dish out harsher punishments, rather it’s the far greater power of our relationship and connection.
I know this works.
For me it was like a light bulb went off. I have completely changed my parenting approach and started down a path that allows me to share my experiences and knowledge with many other parents facing the same challenges that I did.
I asked my daughter the other day why she listens to me and does as I ask, her response was. “Because you get me, mummy, you understand me.”
I have helped many clients get the connection back with their families, gain willing cooperation and build lasting fulfilling relationships.
I want this for you too. It is time to make the shift.