Our kids know we are in charge.
We don’t need to prove it to them.
When we are in total charge, we feel it and our kids do too. There is no struggle. We can stay cool, calm and connected in charge.
Parenting is not about control, when we parent with control we are never fully in charge, we are leading through fear, disconnect and power.
Nobody likes being pushed around and our kids push back her beach ball analogy. She really has missed what parenting is all about.
Parenting is about connection, relationships and empathy. With these we are not in constant power struggles, our children follow our lead willingly. Yes, it’s not all plain sailing. They are kids and they do childish things, but our perspective has changed.
We don’t look for short-term compliance, we look for teaching, coaching and nurturing our children to thrive.
I’m in it for the long haul!
I want a child who can think for themselves, behave because they want to, handle their emotions and not let them rule their life. And have a bucket load of self-esteem, not too much to ask.
I realise my connection with my children will give me more influence over their life than power struggles, punishments, control and disconnect ever will.
Stay cool, calm and connected.