You are such a loving mother. Dealing with huge angry outbursts is draining for everyone involved, but you are clearly determined to help your daughter and won’t stop until you find a solution. The solution I recommend is this: emotional regulation. Self-regulation and self-control are skills that all people have to learn. Some kids take
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I’m a Language of Listening® parent coach.
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“I used to shout at the kids, because I didn’t know what else to do and I felt like I was losing control. Of course this just taught them to fear my outbursts yet learn nothing from them except to shout in return, and at each other. All the noise I taught them to make would trigger my anger.
I had these three awesome small children and I was ruining it. I was afraid they would grow up and not trust me.
…It’s been about ten months since I met Camilla and I realised recently that I almost never shout anymore and haven’t for quite a while. We don’t have a ‘naughty step’ or send our kids to their rooms because we don’t need to, I talk to them instead. Consequences to actions are relevant so I don’t need to make pointless, unrelated threats of punishment. I don’t feel like the kids are deliberately trying to wind me up all the time because I have learned to see situations for what they really are. I am less reactive. I finally feel like I can understand my children and give them what they need to succeed but I have learned to also be very comfortable in setting my boundaries. I can validate and sympathise but I don’t have to agree.”
It just makes life so much simpler and takes the pressure off you as a parent. Before we get started, let me explain what Language of Listening® is all about. It was founded by Sandy Blackard who cracked the code of how humans work. She took the principles and teachings of Positive psychology, transformational coaching
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Whether you’re dealing with tantrums, power struggles, floods of tears or flat out refusing to cooperate, it’s often tricky to know what to do and say, isn’t it? It’s our parenting instincts to want to make things better for our children, of course we don’t want them to suffer. It definitely pulls on our heart
But did you know? Guilt is a normal human emotion. It’s a message that you want things to be different. It means you’re a great parent. It means you’re looking for answers. It means you know things can be different. I’m here to tell you, the reason for all your parenting struggles… it’s not you,
Truthfully. it leaves you feeling like a terrible parent and you can’t seem to break the cycle. However hard you try. What if I told you, I know how that feels, and chances are you’ve been looking in all the wrong places to make the changes you want. What if you could change just ONE thing
Oh my! It was moments like these that would trigger me. When my daughter was little, my every request was met by a big fat NO! “Why does my daughter have to be so stubborn? Why does she always have to push my boundaries? Why can’t she be more like her brother? He just listens
“Thank you! We can’t stress this enough – thank you!
You have brought calm into our house and I have 4 children under 8 so calm isn’t something I am used to!
We were trying. We’d read all the books but your course helped put the important points into focus and helped us realise out behaviour and response to our children’s normal behaviour was what needed to change.
‘Say what you see’ – such a simple concept has changed our life. Building our children up celebrating their positives instead of reminding them what they have done wrong. Camilla teaches through experience and example and explains how to achieve this even when your children are pushing all buttons and making you feel powerless she has the answer to regain the calm in the chaos without shouting, reward charts or threats!”